Hollywood - Discusses Community, Inspiration and Aging

"Tell Your Story and Use Your Voice"

Hollywood Women Discuss Aging with Maria Shriver

  • Rita Wilson: American actress, singer, songwriter, producer, writer
  • Megan Mullaly: American actress, comedian, singer 
  • Maria Shriver: American journalist, Former First Lady of California, and founder of the nonprofit The Womens Alzheimer's Movement
  • Lisa Kudrow: American actress, writer, comedian, singer, producer
  • Tina Knowles Lawson: American business woman (owned salons), fashion designer, known for House of Dereon, and Miss Tina. Mother of Beyonce and Solange Knowles

Your Group

This week while dealing with a swollen knee from playing too much tennis, I had the time to listen and watch to a segment on the Today Show hosted by Maria Shriver on aging - Hollywood Women Discuss Aging with Maria Shriver.   Rita Wilson, Megan Mullally  Lisa Kudrow, and Tina Knowles Lawson were being interviewed on their thoughts of being a "certain age".  They discussed everything from having had kids or not, love, discrimination for being older, loving their lives, happy to be their age, careers, new careers, creativity, taking care of elders, and so much more.  The show was enlightening, interesting and inspirational.  However, what I really obtained from the hour plus piece was how important friendship and connection was to them.  They all were enjoying chatting over a spot of tea.  Their worries, concerns and voices were being heard by each other. Do you have Your Group?

Being Heard

In a nutshell, we all want to be heard.  What does this mean?  Well, you may have one opinion and another has a different opinion about an issue.  Everyone wants the opportunity to share opinions even if they are polar opposite.  They do not want to be scorned, laughed at or told that their thoughts are invalid or nonsense.  For instance, Shriver asked Mullally about why she made the choice to not have children and does she worry about who will take care of her when she is older?  Mullally answered that she never wanted to have children and that this decision works for her and her husband.  As for getting older and who will take care of her, she laughingly said "her friends".  Kudrow commented that we cannot expect anyone to take care of us and who knows what the future will bring.  As we all know, many have become caretakers for their parents which is challenging and difficult especially if you do not have the money or can find a place a decent place to care for them.  They were all grateful that they had the funds to assist their parents but were deeply concerned about the future of the aging.  The facilities available are very expensive and the care not always the best.  They all agreed that it is a challenge in our society that needs to be addressed.

Eunice Shriver: American philanthropist, Kennedy, Founder of Special Olympics

Speak Proudly, Walk Tall, Embrace Your Wrinkles, Keep on Reading

As for parents, Shriver, is very proud of her mother and her accomplishments.  She continually told her daughters that her mother, Eunice Shriver, had the most wrinkles that she had ever seen.   When Eunice walked into a room everyone stopped and listened.  She was the most interesting person in the room because of how she carried herself, presented herself and how she spoke in public.  I am sure being a Kennedy helped, yet remember Eunice founded the Special Olympics.  They all discussed how when one ages they become invisible.   Yet, if you keep on reading new books, newspapers keeps learning you will be center stage.  In other words, you can fill your face with filler, dress nicely but if you do not expand your brain and interests, you will be dull to yourself and others.  Embrace who you are and share your thoughts with pride.   Set a goal of reading something completely different or learning something unfamiliar or modern.


Wilson was asked what it is like to married to such a famous actor? She always finds this question amusing and a bit irritating.  After all, she is an accomplished actress, musician, singer, writer, producer and mother.   Wilson replied that she doesn't see her husband this way because he is her companion, her husband, her support and her life partner. Love you husband, your family and friends.

And, if you do not have a significant other, put it out to the universe. Shriver asked, Tina Knowles Lawson, did she think she would ever find someone again after divorcing her husband and did she care if never remarried?  Lawson responded, never marrying or being without someone was not an option for her.  Shriver was taken aback by the comment "not an option".  Lawson knew what she wanted and put it out in the universe through prayer.   And, she found it.  She is now happily married to actor, Richard Lawson.   She takes care of herself, dresses well, wears makeup, is accomplished and was open to bringing someone into her life who fit her criteria.  The power of prayer combined with using your brain to change your life can make anything happen.  God did give us a brain to figure out what we need. My mother, god rest her soul, always said to me, "If you have a problem solve it.  God gave you a brain."  In other words, prayer and positive energy is very important.  One must also be open to trying new things and aware of the world on a daily basis.

Community - If you build it, if you create it, they will come! 

This segment solidified for me the entire reason for the interview - friendship and community.  Community is a huge problem in our society today.  Did you know that Howard Schultz, former CEO of Starbucks, had a marketing strategy that emphasized people might desire three safe places in their lives.  First is home, second is work or a daily activity and third is a place to congregate.  Starbucks became and is the third place that integrates humanity.  Brilliant idea.  This is why at Starbucks you see many with laptops, or groups sitting around and chatting over coffee.  We all need a community, a safe place to speak your mind, be happy, to be heard, to listen to opposing opinions, celebrate life and build friendships.  Mullally started a group called, "Girlfriends Spectacular Night" where she brought women together from all ages to sit and chat about life.  The interviewees  felt that it was and is very hard to find a community to share yourself especially in big cities.   As I listened to this interview I personally realized that I do have this type of community at my tennis club.  We are of different ages and walks of life though we laugh a lot, share our stories, listen to others opinions and feel safe and loved.  We celebrate life.  In fact, one of my former corporate friends, visited us one day at the club for lunch.  When I walked my friend out of the club,  she said, "I get it now."  In other words, she knew I had a found my community
.  She had noticed that I had my community, my daily friendship piece fulfilled.  And, to this day, I keep coming back to be connected and have the bond of friendship. 

Where do you find a daily community?  Could it be sports, book club, work, a new career, mothers group etc.,  If you do not have one, put your thinking cap on and figure out what you like to do. Then, pick up the phone and make it happen.  Maybe it is a walking group, a book club or a standing lunch with different friends.  I also remember my corporate work days filled with the same components. We worked and played hard!  Take a stand, reach out and expand your world. 

Creativity & Follow Your Passion

Your mind is still vibrant and active.  In fact a women's brain in their 50's and actually grows because of the hormonal changes. Thus, we are essentially back in puberty ready to start new adventures or tackle fresh ideas.  Start now.  All of these women were firm believers in trying new things, charting new hobbies and relishing that you can still learn, still give and are viable.  You can change your narrative however you wish.  They didn't mention travelling, seeing the world, homes, clothes, jewels or money.  Rather they underscored being creative with a positive mindset.  Where are you heading?  Where are you going? What is your one passion?  Follow it.  You never know where it will lead.  Kudrow, after finishing the show Friends, knew she wanted to write and star in another show.  She pushed for it and the show, The Comeback, came into fruition.  Another example,  Knowles mentioned how she had hired a seamstress to fix Beyonce's, costumes for her.  The seamstress took it a step further and created a tailoring business.  In other words, you are not over, you can do more! Follow your passion.


It was obvious that all of them had faith in their lives.  This faith filled them with hope and kept them vibrant.  So, find your faith, whatever that maybe for you.   Your heart will be filled with hope and help you understand life. Wilson, commented when her mother was dying, she couldn't talk, eat and was on her death bed, she asked the priest, "Why does God allow this to happen to someone"?  He answered back, "Your mother is still teaching you."  You are all here for her right now.  I could personally relate to this comment since my mother passed away in April.  I kept thinking why was her life life so miserable and the end so ugly?  Now, I understand.  She was still teaching me at the very end.  I was there for her and so was my husband. I had stood by her all my life.  I could stand on my own was strong and would be okay.  And, when she was gone, she was free and I was free of worrying about her.  And, at my mothers small funeral, the rain was gently falling and children were in the distance laughing. The circle of life. Have faith.  

I have spotlighted only a few segments of this hour long discussion about women and aging.  It is a must watch or listen too while you are taking a break during your day.  If you are young, listen to this piece  too. It is profound and why not start now.  Believe, continue learning and fill your mind with positive possibilities.  Find your community, be heard, embrace your life, your age and look forward to each day.  Live wisely, live happily, enjoy your family, spouse, significant other and create your community.  Life is precious and so are you.

Thank you Maria for producing and creating this beautiful piece.  And, to the women participating. 

Link:  Hollywood Women Discussing Aging

"When the world is so complicated, the simple gift of friendship is within all of our hands."  Maria Shriver

Until Next Time! Be Kind. 


Wednesday - Fashion Plate News

The Hot List


This weekend I met with a friend for coffee. We found a couple of "must haves" that were high quality and gorgeous.   Of course, first we solved the worlds challenges over a cup or two of caffeine sunshine. It is so important to surround yourself with friends that support you especially in these caustic times.  When you fail, or make a mistake, they are the first ones to say, "next time" or "it's okay we are not perfect".  Learn the gift of apology too. It is healing to the soul for you and everyone.  Heal thyself and others. 

Additionally, social media, the press and some souls are constantly filling the world with negative messages.  I often wonder why people spew their discontent over social media? Do they really believe anyone truly cares?  Or when someone admired and famous writes a beautiful piece read by millions only to spoil the message with a political bent or rant. The message is suddenly lost and dampened rather than spreading worthiness and kindness.  Frankly, social media is a way to gather, spread helpful information or just too laugh out loud.  I rather laugh often or look at an animal photo.  And, of course, I know what is going on around the world but why drain ones life energy into something I cannot control?  Bottom line - a computer is not your best friend, it is a useful tool to learn or disseminate pertinent knowledge.  Connection is the ultimate key and if you are missing human connection, then find a way to a new path. Block the negative.  Life is short, so find beauty while spreading hope and light.  

Thought Catalog!  20 Realities You Must Accept Before You Can Truly Live Your Best Life:  Here is a splash of the 20 Realities:

People come and go.

Every Lesson has a price to pay.

Keep people who care about you close to your heart.

Grass is greener where you water it.

You can't please everyone.

You. Need. Connection.

No.One. Cares - Stop complaining! 

Wednesday Find's!

Affiliate Links are Included

Wit & Wisdom Fall Pant 

Quality, beautifully crafted.  Great legging fit.  I went a size up for comfort. Lots of prints and color.  Plus the price is right.  Pair with a colorful sweater, Everlane Flats, or your favorite boots.

Wit & Wisdom Ab-Solution Skinny Ponte Pants

Raspberry Ice Cream Sweater

Cashmere!  On Sale.  Relaxed fit.   I went down a size.  More importantly, the color is stunning.  My girlfriend said she wants to eat it!  Serious.

Vince Weekend V-Neck Cashmere Sweater

There you have it.  A couple of lovely pieces to augment your Forever Chic Style wardrobe. I hope you are finding ways to connect to others on a daily basis.   Find peace within yourself and celebrate your life.  Everyday is a blessing with joy and beauty around.  One final note, lets all hear it for Ellen DeGeneres who in on Tuesday, October 8th monologue reminded us all to be kind to everyone!  Do it!  Be kind, be thoughtful and help spread The Kindness Movement.  

"Fashion is about something that comes from within you"  Ralph Lauren

Until Next Time! Be Kind. 


Everlane - Nordstrom Affair

My Favorite Brand - Quality & Right Price

Everlane - Pop-In at Nordstrom - October 4th - November 17th

What You Wear Sends a Message!

Everlane is hands down one of my all time favorite brands.  I own several Boss Boots made in Italy, sublime cashmere sweaters, handbags and flats that are all made of exceptional quality.  The cost is less because Everlane does not sell their clothing via brick and mortar stores.  This fall, Everlane has partnered with Nordstrom to participate in the Pop-In section at select stores.  For more of an indepth background on Everlane, please check out my piece published on September 2017 about Everlane - Everlane - At Nordstrom 2017

If you want quality, simple and elegant pieces, and want to impress Everlane is your brand.  It is very important to dress the part.  In fact, my daughter, recently recruited by a major tech company, opted once again to wear simple and classic suiting and Audrey Hepburn like apparel. At every company she has worked for she has never worn jeans.  And, because of her intelligence plus her ability to present herself well, she has been promoted over and over again to higher and higher levels at each company.  Why does she dress for success in tech? Well she wants to be viewed as a professional with game.  Think of politicians, presenters, television or film personnel or anyone in a place of power - they dress for success.  So, yes, how you dress, does send a strong message plus makes one feel extra self confident.  And, then of course, your intelligence and beauty within will shine through with an extra sparkle.  Do you want to command the room? The quest is yours and Everlane is your brand. 

"You can have anything if you dress for it." Edith Head

What are You Waiting For? Personal Favorites!

Classic Crew - Cashmere - Lots of Hues

Everlane The Cashmere Crew Sweater

Everlane The Cashmere Latern Sweater

Everlane The ReCashmere Vintage Crew

Layering or Stand Alone - Quality and What a Great Price!

Everlane The Pima Micro Rib Turtleneck

Everlane The Pima Micro Rib Funnel Top

Boots Are Made for Walking!

The Best Boot - Comfort Madness

Everlane The Day Boot

The BOSS BOOT - At Everlane Website

Personally own several.   Beautifully made and comfortable.  I have attached my affiliate credit to this site.  Please use link.  The link takes you to the overall site.  Select Boots - The Boss Boot. 

Everlane - Women's Boss Boot

 The Ultimate Flat - Audrey Hepburn Style

Everlane The Modern Loafer

The White Shirt

Everlane The Clean Silk Relaxed Shirt

The One & Only Tote!!

Everlane The Day Market Tote

There you have it.  Quality apparel at the right price.  Seriously, this brand is flying out of Nordstrom.  Command the room in classic apparel.  Don't be late to the party.  Click away my friends!  Click away before you leave this site.   And, remember you are in charge of your destiny. Dress the part, stand out and command the room.  You can do it!  Everlane! 

"Fashion is about something that comes from within you"  Ralph Lauren

Until Next Time!